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女,53岁,《我着急成长的样子,我自己都觉得可笑》 我们的烦恼和痛苦在于,能力不够,想要的却太多。想要安全感,存在感,价值感(内在价值)。 “不得不要”和“一定要”,是安全感低,行为表现可能是是“攻”或“守”。 “想要”和“不满足”,是存在感低(即外在价值感低),行为表现可能是“作”或“折腾”等。 “没有活力”和“死气沉沉”,是内在价值感低,行为表现可能是“颓废”或“自虐”等。 每个人都有这三个层面面的不同程度的问题,区别在于当时的处境把TA推到了哪个层面,他的意识能力把TA带到了哪个层面。 安全感是人的基本需求,是生存保障的需求;存在感是人的较高需求,是自尊的需求;内在价值感是高级需求,是自我实现自我超越的需求。 我现在的处境暴露了我的安全感问题,我不断发展的意识能力又推动了我对内在价值感的追求。在一低一高的需求的鼓动下,我被两种力量拉扯,有种精神分裂的感觉。 我现在的感觉就像玩扑克牌“跑得快”,我一定要在别人手里的王炸出来之前打完手里的牌。“王炸”就是我的“安全感问题”,我一定要在“安全感问题”压垮我之前,完成较好的内在成长。这也是一场与乌云赛跑的运动,我要在大暴雨来临之前给我的家园做有效的防护。 接下来就是有意识的进行自我整合了。希望能有进步。
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咨询师张庆仪
您好
2021-06-10 16:32:35
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2021-06-10 16:33:29
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@张庆仪你还我第一
2021-06-10 16:35:44
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@张庆仪你是河南开封的。
2021-06-10 16:37:14
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2021-06-10 16:37:33
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@龙凤你好呀,小凤凤
2021-06-10 16:39:34
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2021-06-10 16:45:18
倾听者简爱情感
0 很期待你下次发帖能看到你的成长和进步,好吧?
2021-06-10 16:49:07
简爱情感。谢谢您的善良,私聊真的帮不了我。我只能自己帮自己。
倾听者葛老师
1 你很棒!每天都在成长,你身体里留存着祖祖辈辈的智慧,加油!我们都会越来越好,自豪感,获得感,幸福感,满载而归!!
2021-06-10 16:59:27
每个人都有问题,区别在于有人的选择逃避,有的人选择粉饰,而我选择直面问题。所以大家才能从我的文字中“看到我的问题”。如果您不曾直面自己的问题并战胜了自己的问题,那么您一定帮不了我。谢谢。
网友香风晓雾
0 意识层一直都知道。不然怎么会说道理都懂呢?怎么会头脑清明呢?怎么会说我走出来头脑的二元对立了呢?在身体上怎么会出现记忆冒出来呢?
2021-06-10 17:00:29
网友香风晓雾
0 2018年,几乎是意识层彻底不防御了,潜意识有点喷薄似的爆发涌动。那时持续和外界碰撞可以更加快速整合的。结果去咨询了,外力入侵,把以前的整个心理逻辑都破坏了。。那时社交几乎没多大问题,但是一谈恋爱就退行。我说我没办法彻底信任一个人,意思是没办法彻底依赖一个人。没办法做到,在一个人身边,想干嘛就干嘛。我爸爸的婴儿期,奶奶把他扔在床上自己哭。我有很多看似是依恋方面出的问题,实际是复制了和爸爸的模式,我变成了恐惧抛弃的“爸爸”在和男友恋爱。。好在,那问题是出在俄狄浦斯期。结果,女咨询师身上移情了爸爸,她自己本身心理发育水平处在自体自恋,头脑层面。看不到我,不会处理情绪,生命能量受阻,只能不停的退行,直至婴儿期不能再退,不能动了,仅存的理智换得异性咨询师。那时可以不再纠结女咨询师的创伤,直接断了过去,承接过去的。
2021-06-10 17:17:31
倾听者敏姐
闯过了这一关,肯定就能大彻大悟了。
2021-06-10 17:32:46
网友香风晓雾
0 再之后,就惨了,退到婴儿,女咨询师持续的看不到我。她开始投射:你要知道,你的问题要靠你自己!不能依赖我!你要起床!要锻炼!。。。。。那时已经是婴儿,我在表达症状,可是任由我怎么表达,“妈妈”还是看不到当下的我的感受。不被“妈妈”看到的婴儿,像掉进了冰窟窿,内在4分5裂,进入幻想世界。躺在床上,拉着窗帘,更加无法起床。婴儿无力攻击妈妈,内化了这敌意,内在4分5裂。对异性咨询师的移情,起初是成长过程中所有好的父性客体的移情。背后对应的是“亲生父亲”这个不好的客体的压抑着的攻击性。这攻击性在这2年里精进的,发奋图强的,不惜1切代价的释放过。所以到了去年的78月份,几乎全部是正移情。。但相识的那个时间,心理年龄是躺在床上内在分裂的“婴儿”,所以移情里包含了被毁掉的边界的共生渴求。这是我那时说的,我的魂魄不在自己身上,我变成了他
2021-06-10 17:36:00
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你好
2021-06-10 17:46:39
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2021-06-10 19:44:33
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您好
2021-06-10 22:08:50
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舒言情感送了一个拥抱
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你好
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